Hi Aykut! Like you, I have one foot in North America and the other in Europe. I find that people who grew up in North America are more accustomed to the type of situation you describe. People who grew up in Europe and Eurasia find themselves confused in places like California. Americans seem so friendly, but then you never see them again. In Europe, it takes longer to get to know someone once you have reached adulthood. (Note: I was born in Florida, but I moved to Switzerland at age 51 because that's where most of my family is). It's good to acknowledge that you feel "lazy" at this point in your life, but it is utterly unreasonable to expect that "everyone shares their attendees list before any meetings, events or house parties." Really? Maybe if you are not interested in meeting new people, just graciously decline when you are invited. Simple enough.
Hi Aykut! Like you, I have one foot in North America and the other in Europe. I find that people who grew up in North America are more accustomed to the type of situation you describe. People who grew up in Europe and Eurasia find themselves confused in places like California. Americans seem so friendly, but then you never see them again. In Europe, it takes longer to get to know someone once you have reached adulthood. (Note: I was born in Florida, but I moved to Switzerland at age 51 because that's where most of my family is). It's good to acknowledge that you feel "lazy" at this point in your life, but it is utterly unreasonable to expect that "everyone shares their attendees list before any meetings, events or house parties." Really? Maybe if you are not interested in meeting new people, just graciously decline when you are invited. Simple enough.
I totally hear you!! Same feelings